A COLLECTION OF GOOD WORDS
婚姻
Marriage
Marriage is something that needs to be worked on every day. I don't know if I'm the one to give marital advice since I've only been married for a little over a year, but marriage is certainly easier if you are open, trusting and loving.
婚姻是每天都要处理的事情。我不知道我是不是那个给婚姻提建议的人，因为我结婚才一年多一点，但如果你开放、信任和爱，婚姻肯定会更容易。
I guess you kind of got to realize that once you in a marriage, whatever it is, you gotta deal with it. Not necessarily that you got to accept it, but you have to deal with it and try your best to make it work for you, for the both of you.
我想你应该意识到，一旦你结了婚，不管是什么，你都要面对它。你不一定要接受它，但你必须处理它，尽你最大的努力让它为你工作，为你们两个。
I was glad to hear of that determination as I detest the practice of cousins marrying or any marriage between persons in which there can be traced the most distant relationship. I go for the improvement instead of the deterioration of our race.
我很高兴听到这个决定，因为我讨厌堂兄弟姐妹结婚，讨厌任何可以追溯到最遥远关系的人结婚。我追求进步而不是我们种族的堕落。
When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal and exhausting continuously until death do them part.
当两个人受到最强烈、最疯狂、最虚幻、最短暂的激情的影响时，他们必须发誓，他们将一直保持这种兴奋、不正常和疲惫的状态，直到死亡将他们分开。
Marriage has a unique place because it speaks of an absolute faithfulness, a covenant between radically different persons, male and female; and so it echoes the absolute covenant of God with his chosen, a covenant between radically different partners.
婚姻之所以具有独特的地位，是因为它所表达的是绝对的忠诚，是完全不同的男女之间的契约;所以它呼应了上帝与他所选之人的绝对契约，一个完全不同的伙伴之间的契约。
My parents did not have a perfect marriage. It was pretty good, but it was not perfect. My marriage is not perfect. My wife is, but I happen to be imperfect. However, that does not discount the fact that the definition of marriage must be defended and protected.
我父母的婚姻并不完美。它很好，但并不完美。我的婚姻并不完美。我的妻子是，但我碰巧不完美。但是，这并不排除必须捍卫和保护婚姻的定义这一事实。
Instead, I think over the years we have cut the strength of marriage and relationships by the law and weakened the institution. We have tried to deal with relationships with no-fault divorce, with child custody, with so many other avenues; and it has not helped.
相反，我认为，多年来，我们通过法律削弱了婚姻和关系的力量，削弱了制度。我们试图通过无过错离婚、子女抚养权以及其他许多途径来处理关系;但这并没有起到任何作用。
For years my wedding ring has done its job. It has led me not into temptation. It has reminded my husband numerous times at parties that it's time to go home. It has been a source of relief to a dinner companion. It has been a status symbol in the maternity ward.
多年来，我的结婚戒指一直发挥着它的作用。它没有使我陷入诱惑。它在聚会上多次提醒我丈夫该回家了。这对晚餐同伴来说是一种解脱。它已经成为产科病房的身份象征。
By our Heavenly Father and only because of God, only because of God. We're like other couples. We do not get along perfectly; we do not go without arguments and, as I call them, fights, and heartache and pain and hurting each other. But a marriage is three of us.
因为我们的天父，又因为神，又因为神。我们和其他夫妻一样。我们相处得并不完美;我们不能没有争吵，就像我说的，争吵，心痛，痛苦和伤害彼此。但婚姻是我们三个人的事。
A big part of being in a relationship or marriage or whatever is you have to eventually compromise. Your life doesn't end up exactly the way you think it's going to, and if it's the right relationship, you might have to compromise what you're doing professionally.
在一段关系或婚姻中，很大一部分你最终不得不妥协。你的生活并没有像你想象的那样结束，如果这是一段正确的关系，你可能不得不妥协你的职业生涯。
In marriage there are no manners to keep up, and beneath the wildest accusations no real criticism. Each is familiar with that ancient child in the other who may erupt again. We are not ridiculous to ourselves. We are ageless. That is the luxury of the wedding ring.
在婚姻生活中，没有礼貌可言，即使是最荒唐的指责也没有真正的批评。每个人都熟悉另一个可能再次爆发的远古孩子。我们对自己并不可笑。我们是永恒的。那是结婚戒指的奢侈品。
Marriage would change hardly anything between us, except that we would end our arguments in a much more satisfying way. And of course I would have extensive legal rights over your body, your property, and all your individual freedoms, but I don't see what's so alarming about that.
婚姻几乎不会改变我们之间的任何事情，除了我们会以一种更令人满意的方式结束争吵。当然，我对你的身体，你的财产，你所有的个人自由都有广泛的法律权利，但我不认为这有什么可怕的。
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沿着这个主题，再读几句。
I know in my own marriage I stayed in it to provide my son with what I thought was a stable background and to give him what I thought was the family life a child should have with two parents. But that isn't always the best way, and it took me taking my son to therapy after the divorce to really see it.
我知道在我自己的婚姻中，我留下来是为了给我的儿子提供一个我认为是稳定的背景，给他一个我认为是一个孩子应该拥有的家庭生活。但这并不总是最好的方式，离婚后我带儿子去看了心理治疗，才真正体会到这一点。
Marriage is distinctly and repeatedly excluded from heaven. Is this because it is thought likely to mar the general felicity?
婚姻显然一再被排除在天堂之外。这是因为人们认为这可能会损害普遍的幸福吗?
But, alas! what poor Woman is ever taught that she should have a higher Design than to get her a Husband?
但是,唉!有哪个可怜的女人受过这样的教育:她应该有一个比找个丈夫更高的目标?
The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they're right if you love to be with them all of the time.
幸福婚姻的秘诀是找到合适的人。如果你一直喜欢和他们在一起，你就知道他们是对的。
When you make the sacrifice in marriage, you're sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship.
当你在婚姻中做出牺牲时，你牺牲的不是彼此而是一段关系中的团结。
Marriage is give and take. You'd better give it to her or she'll take it anyway.
婚姻是互相迁就的。你最好把它给她，否则她无论如何都会拿走的。