A COLLECTION OF GOOD WORDS
悲伤
Grief
Before my teen years, I was losing my hearing pretty quickly, and I was getting very, very angry. I was beginning to become an angry person because of that.
在我十几岁之前，我的听力很快就丧失了，我变得非常非常生气。正因为如此，我开始变成一个愤怒的人。
What can I say about the First World War, a war in which I served as an infantryman, a war I hated at the start and to which I never warmed as it proceeded?
我能对第一次世界大战说些什么呢?在这场战争中，我作为一名步兵服役，一开始我痛恨这场战争，但随着战争的进行，我从未对它感到温暖。
Barry and I were in the middle of building a house, and I was in the midst of having a nervous breakdown, because that's what you do when you build a house.
我和巴里在盖房子的时候，我正处于精神崩溃的边缘，因为这就是我们盖房子的过程。
I said 'It can't go on' and he said 'No, it can't.' Honestly, I don't think I could have mattered less to him by then. But by then, nothing mattered to him.
我说‘不能再继续了’，他说‘不行，不能再继续了’。“说实话，我不认为那时我对他没有什么不重要的。但到那时，他已经无所谓了。
When we have ceased to love the stench of the human animal, either in others or in ourselves, then are we condemned to misery, and clear thinking can begin.
当我们不再爱人类动物的恶臭，无论是在别人身上还是在我们自己身上，那么我们就注定要受苦，而清晰的思考就可以开始了。
My feelings about my mortality are less selfish than they used to be. I used to affect a cavalier attitude to death; now I see it from my son's perspective.
我对死亡的感觉不像以前那么自私了。我过去对死亡的态度是漫不经心的;现在我从我儿子的角度来看。
One of the things that happens to people in grief is they secretly think they're crazy, because they realize they are thinking things that don't make sense.
在悲伤的人身上会发生的一件事是，他们私下里认为自己疯了，因为他们意识到自己在想一些没有意义的事情。
Besides that, I felt guilty. I thought for some reason... I was alive, and Buddy and those boys were dead, and I didn't know how, but somehow I'd caused it.
除此之外，我感到内疚。我想出于某种原因……我还活着，巴迪和那些男孩都死了，我不知道是怎么回事，但不知怎么的，是我造成的。
Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.
爱会付出很多，但不爱的代价往往更高，那些害怕爱的人往往发现，缺少爱是一种空虚，会夺走生活的乐趣。
I have this helicopter crash, and I fall in love with this man who was in the crash with me. I must have been suffering from post-traumatic stress syndrome.
我有一次坠机，我爱上了和我一起坠机的那个人。我一定是得了创伤后应激综合症。
I have been in Sorrow's kitchen and licked out all the pots. Then I have stood on the peaky mountain wrapped in rainbows, with a harp and sword in my hands.
我到过悲伤的厨房，把所有的锅都吃光了。那时，我站在彩虹环绕的峰顶上，手里拿着竖琴和剑。
O Oisin, mount by me and ride To shores by the wash of the tremulous tide, Where men have heaped no burial-mounds, And the days pass by like a wayward tune.
哦，欧辛，随我而上，乘着震颤的潮水，奔向海岸，在那里人们没有堆起坟冢，日子像一首任性的曲子，一天天过去了。
KEEP EXPLORING
沿着这个主题，再读几句。
When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That's the message he is sending.
当别人让你受苦时，那是因为他内心深处在受苦，他的痛苦正在蔓延。他不需要惩罚;他需要帮助。这就是他要传达的信息。
In your emotions: exercise Joy over sadness.
在你的情绪中:用快乐战胜悲伤。
Sometimes grief is a comfort we grant ourselves because it's less terrifying than trying for joy.
有时候，悲伤是我们给自己的一种安慰，因为它没有为快乐而努力那么可怕。
It is right it should be so, Man was made for joy and woe; And when this we rightly know, Through the world we safely go.
应该如此，人是为快乐和悲伤而生的;当我们正确地认识到这一点时，我们就能安全地穿过这个世界。
There is a wisdom that is woe; but there is a woe that is madness.
有一种智慧叫悲哀;但有一种悲哀是疯狂的。
It is not about forcing happiness. It is about not letting sadness win.
这不是强迫幸福。而是不要让悲伤获胜。