A COLLECTION OF GOOD WORDS
悲伤
Grief
Animals have a much better attitude to life and death than we do. They know when their time has come. We are the ones that suffer when they pass, but it's a healing kind of grief that enables us to deal with other griefs that are not so easy to grab hold of.
动物对待生死的态度比我们人类好得多。他们知道自己的时间到了。当他们逝去的时候，我们是痛苦的一方，但这是一种疗伤的悲伤，让我们能够处理其他不那么容易控制的悲伤。
If you're lucky like me, your relationship with your brother has resolved itself on the peaceful side of the fence and has stayed there. But if you're someone who's got a family that's all fractured and finding it hard to relate, that's a very sad place to be.
如果你像我一样幸运，你和你哥哥的关系已经在和平的那一边解决了，并一直保持在那里。但如果你的家庭支离破碎，很难与人相处，那将是一个非常悲伤的地方。
My parents took an interest in nothing, at home no books, no records. My mother and my father are the emblem of indifference, dryness and bad taste. My father is also terribly stingy, in life as well as in feelings: I have never seen him filling up the bathtub.
我的父母对什么都不感兴趣，在家里没有书，没有记录。我的母亲和父亲是冷漠、干涩和低级趣味的象征。我父亲在生活上和感情上都非常吝啬:我从来没有见过他给浴缸加满水。
Man hath still either toys or care: But hath no root, nor to one place is tied, but ever restless and irregular, about this earth doth run and ride. He knows he hath a home, but scarce knows where; He says it is so far, that he has quite forgot how to go there.
人或有玩具，或有忧愁，却没有根，也没有绑在一处，只是终日不安，常常不规则，在这地上跑来跑去。他知道自己有家，却不知道在哪里;他说太远了，以至于完全忘了怎么去那儿。
Do such moments really mean, as they seem to, that we have a life of happiness with which we only occasionally, knowingly, intersect? Do they shed such light before and after that all that has happened in our lives-or that we’ve made to happen-can be dismissed?
这些时刻真的像它们看起来的那样，意味着我们的幸福生活只是偶尔、有意地与之相交吗?在那之前和之后，我们生活中发生的一切——或者我们为之而发生的一切——是否都能被忽略?
My heart burnt within me with indignation and grief; we could think of nothing else. All night long we had only snatches of sleep, waking up perpetually to the sense of a great shock and grief. Every one is feeling the same. I never knew so universal a feeling.
我的心在我里面因忿怒和悲哀烧着。我们想不出别的了。整个晚上，我们只睡了一小会儿，醒来时总是感到非常震惊和悲伤。每个人的感觉都一样。我从未见过如此普遍的感觉。
The mark of a good marriage is partnership and continuing to feel inspired by your spouse. I had that with Tao. But the end is not necessarily the tragedy. Staying in a relationship that is no longer working is the tragedy. Living unhappily - that's the tragedy.
美满婚姻的标志是伙伴关系，并继续受到配偶的鼓舞。我和陶有过同样的经历。但结局不一定是悲剧。维持一段不再有效的关系是一场悲剧。生活不快乐——这就是悲剧。
The echo began in some indescribable way to undermine her hold on life. Coming at a moment when she chanced to be fatigued, it had managed to murmur, ‘Pathos, piety, courage---they exist, but are identical, and so is filth. Everything exists, nothing has value.’
回声开始以某种难以形容的方式破坏她对生活的把握。就在她碰巧感到疲倦的时候，那声音又低声道:“悲哀、虔诚和勇气——它们都存在，但都是一样的，污秽也是一样的。一切都存在，没有任何东西有价值。”
When you're on top and you lead the parade, everyone's there throwing lilies and lilac water on your head. But when those parades have gone by and there's a storm in your heart, there are very few people that are going to sit there and listen to you bemoan life.
当你站在最上面，带领着游行队伍时，每个人都在往你头上扔百合和丁香水。但当那些游行过后，当你心中有风暴时，很少有人会坐在那里听你哀叹人生。
I have learned that some of the nicest people youll ever meet are those who have suffered a traumatic event or loss. I admire them for their strength, but most especially for their life gratitude - a gift often taken for granted by the average person in society.
我了解到，你所见过的最好的人当中，有一些是受过创伤或失去亲人的人。我钦佩他们的力量，但最重要的是他们对生活的感激之情——这是一种通常被社会上的普通人视为理所当然的礼物。
We always knew how to honor fallen soldiers. They were killed for our sake, they went out on our mission. But how are we to mourn a random man killed in a terrorist attack while sitting in a cafe? How do you mourn a housewife who got on a bus and never returned?
我们总是知道如何向阵亡的士兵致敬。他们是为了我们而被杀的，他们执行了我们的使命。但是，我们如何悼念一个在咖啡馆里被恐怖袭击杀害的随机男子呢?你如何哀悼一位上了公共汽车却再也没有回来的家庭主妇?
There have been some friendships lost over this. That's the most difficult for me. I find it very uncomfortable to know that I was at one time close friends with someone, and because of jealousies and misunderstandings and so on, these friendships have dissolved.
因为这件事，我们失去了一些友谊。这对我来说是最难的。我发现，当我知道我曾经和某人是亲密的朋友，由于嫉妒和误解等原因，这些友谊已经破裂时，我感到非常不舒服。
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The conscience of an artist worthy of the name is like an incurable disease which causes him endless torment but occasionally fills him with silent joy.
一个名副其实的艺术家的良心就像一种不治之症，给他带来无尽的折磨，但偶尔也会让他充满无言的喜悦。
Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.
爱会付出很多，但不爱的代价往往更高，那些害怕爱的人往往发现，缺少爱是一种空虚，会夺走生活的乐趣。
Endure and persist; this pain will turn to good by and by.
忍受和坚持;这种痛苦不久就会好转的。
It is right it should be so, Man was made for joy and woe; And when this we rightly know, Through the world we safely go.
应该如此，人是为快乐和悲伤而生的;当我们正确地认识到这一点时，我们就能安全地穿过这个世界。
There is a wisdom that is woe; but there is a woe that is madness.
有一种智慧叫悲哀;但有一种悲哀是疯狂的。