A COLLECTION OF GOOD WORDS
分手
Break Up
I'm married now, but back when I had girlfriends, you were always wondering if they liked you, and if you liked them enough. You're together, but the smallest thing could make one of you go 'You know what? This isn't working!'
我现在结婚了，但以前我有女朋友的时候，你总是在想她们是否喜欢你，你是否足够喜欢她们。你们在一起，但即使是最微小的事情也会让你们中的一个离开，你知道吗?这不是工作!”
I remember driving home one evening while they were reviewing the papers on the radio. One of the articles was about me separating from my wife. It's a weird thing to listen to a news report about the break-up of your marriage.
我记得有天晚上开车回家时，他们正在收音机上看报纸。其中一篇文章是关于我和妻子分居的。听有关婚姻破裂的新闻报道是一件很奇怪的事情。
Donald and I still really wanted to be together, but I was fighting to keep what we had privately, and once the world gets involved in your life, little by little it breaks it down until you forget what it was in the first place.
唐纳德和我仍然很想在一起，但我一直努力不让别人知道我们之间的秘密，一旦这个世界介入了你的生活，它就会一点一点地瓦解，直到你忘记它最初是什么。
I was with somebody else at the time, who I left - one, because I didn't really want to be with that person, and two, because I felt I'd had so much tragedy I needed to go off, go crazy, and maybe live on the outside for a while.
当时我和另一个人在一起，我离开了他——一个是因为我真的不想和那个人在一起，另一个是因为我觉得我经历了太多的悲剧，我需要离开，发疯，也许在外面生活一段时间。
I think in a way, you're doomed, once you can envision something. You're sort of doomed to make it happen. I've found that the moment I can envision leaving a relationship, that's usually the moment that the relationship starts to fall apart.
我认为在某种程度上，一旦你能想象一些事情，你就注定要失败。你注定要让它发生。我发现当我能想象离开一段关系的时候，通常就是这段关系开始破裂的时候。
It has always felt like a failure that Bjorn and I couldn't keep our family together. You never get it back, but to this day I don't regret splitting up. The reason behind our separation is one of those things I definitely don't want to go into!
比约恩和我不能让我们的家庭和睦相处，这一直让我觉得是个失败。你再也回不来了，但直到今天我都不后悔分手。我们分手的原因就是其中一件我绝对不想谈的事情!
Separated lovers cheat absence by a thousand fancies which have their own reality. They are prevented from seeing one another and they cannot write; nevertheless they find countless mysterious ways of corresponding, by sending each other the song of
分手的恋人用一千种幻想欺骗分离，这些幻想都有它们自己的现实。他们不能相见，也不能写作;然而，他们找到了无数神秘的通信方式，通过发送对方的歌曲
When something like that happens, people want to try to find some dirt and make it more of a soap opera. But I think we both walked away with the door still open, if we want to do something together again. So yeah, I would call it a friendly break-up.
当这样的事情发生时，人们想要找到一些污垢，让它更像一部肥皂剧。但我想如果我们想再一起做点什么的话，我们都是在门还开着的时候离开的。所以，我认为这是一次友好的分手。
There comes a point with any collaboration like that where you start having other interests creatively. I was moving in one direction musically, and as a guitar player, Mark wanted to move in another direction. That was essentially the reason we broke up.
在任何类似的合作中，你都会开始有其他创造性的兴趣。我在音乐上向一个方向发展，而作为一名吉他手，马克想向另一个方向发展。那基本上就是我们分手的原因。
I stand still for a long time, holding the note, and let it all sink in. Her leaving is almost palpable like a gale-force wind that’s rolled into my life in the span of a single evening and left behind all this incalculable destruction, both inside and out.
我一动不动地站了很长一段时间，手里拿着那张纸条，让它沉了下去。她的离去就像一股狂风，在短短一个晚上就卷进了我的生活，从里到外都留下了无法估量的破坏。
In any relationship that comes to an end, there's never just a baseline reason why. You say, 'Oh, I broke up with my girlfriend.' Someone says, 'Why?' You say, 'Well, you got three hours? And then maybe after I tell you my version, you've got to talk to her.'
在任何一段即将结束的感情中，都不会只有一个基本的原因。你会说，‘哦，我和女朋友分手了。有人问:“为什么?”你会说，‘好吧，你有三个小时?也许在我告诉你我的想法之后，你得和她谈谈。”
Why not provoke some thought and get people talking about things? I like characters that are flawed because we all are. When people break up in a script, you think, Oh, right, there must be tears shed here. But maybe the fact of the matter is that they're both laughing.
为什么不激发一些想法，让人们谈论一些事情呢?我喜欢有缺点的角色，因为我们都有缺点。当人们在剧本中分手时，你会想，哦，对了，一定有人为此流泪。但也许事实是他们都在笑。
KEEP EXPLORING
沿着这个主题，再读几句。
I wrote most of these songs right before the end. A lot of these songs are about that. Even if it's not direct, you can feel the beginning of the end of the breakup in these songs.
这些歌大部分是我在结尾之前写的。很多歌曲都是关于这个的。即使不是直接的，你也可以在这些歌曲中感受到分手的开始。
A break up is the closest thing to bereavement.
分手是离丧亲之痛最近的事。
It was funny actually because that was still during the time we were dating. He would get all these calls because supposedly before we broke up, we had already broken up in the trades, in the rags or whatever.
其实很有趣，因为那还是我们约会的时候。他会接到所有这些电话，因为据说在我们分手之前，我们已经在交易中分手了，在破衣烂衫中分手了。
One way to break up any kind of tension is good deep breathing.
打破紧张的一个方法就是深呼吸。
She got the magazine on a Wednesday morning, and on Thursday announced our marriage was over.
她是在周三早上拿到这本杂志的，周四她宣布我们的婚姻结束了。
Breakups mean flowers.
分手的意思是花朵。